Posted by: nnk1 on: May 8, 2010
You two have so much fun together and even stay up late talking whether it’s via Skype or Facebook Chat. He only flirts with you and doesn’t talk about other girls. There’s apparent chemistry between the two of you but he still hasn’t asked you out yet. “What’s his deal,” you ask?
Here are some reasons you should consider:
1. He is not ready for commitment. Wait, who said anything about commitment? If you think the guy you are interested in is a commit-ophobe and can’t even ask you out on a casual date, he probably isn’t worth dating, anyway. In the casual dating/new beginnings realm, commitment should not be used as an excuse to not ask a woman out.
2. You’re not giving him the “Hey, I’m really interested in you” signal. A good friend of mine told me she acts “weird and shy” around guys she really likes. If you suddenly become reserved while hanging out with your crush, he may take it the wrong way and think “Gee, we were cool a minute ago, but now she’s clammed up. Maybe she isn’t all that into me.”
Be yourself. Be confident. Confidence is sexy. This goes for everyone. If you can’t be the fun and free spirit person who laughs too loudly when you’re around your crush, then to hell with him (or her) because you wouldn’t want to censor your personality for anyone anyway. Once you relax and stop analyzing your every move, he’ll be able to pick up the signs that you’re interested.
3. You’re like a bro to him. Good job, you’re one of the guys now. And there’s nothing you can do about it. Kidding! If you’re nervously thinking that you and your crush are at bromance status and not on your way to coupledom, there are a few things you can do. 1. Step up with flirting. 2. Swap playing Halo and eating wings with him and his guy friends for something more romantic 3. Do something nice for him.
Look, sweetheart, if you think you’re doing the right thing and this guy STILL isn’t asking you out, he’s probably a chotch bag and it’s time to move on. OR, the problem is really you (are you a lil cray cray?) Either way, relax, cause there’s plenty of fish in the sea.
Stealing arrows from Cupid and shooting them over the world for you,
NK
September 24, 2010 at 12:07 pm
I know I’m late to the party on this post, but from a male’s perspective there are only two reasons a guy wouldn’t ask out a girl.
1 – He isn’t interested in the girl and doesn’t want anything more than friendship.
2 – He isn’t getting any signals and thus assumes any ask-out-attempt would be turned down. (Basically, he assumes the girl is in her version of Reason #1)